Every cam room has its own little culture, and like anywhere new, knowing the customs helps you settle in quicker. They’re mostly ordinary good manners. Viewers who stick to them turn into the regulars that performers remember and look forward to seeing.

You’re a guest

Picture the performer hosting people in their own living room. You’ve been invited in. You’d say hello, you wouldn’t start ordering people around, and you’d thank your host. That’s about all there is to it.

Read the room first

Each room has a few bits of information worth a glance before you say anything:

  • The room subject, at the top. It often tells you what’s going on: a topic, a goal people are tipping toward, a game.
  • The profile or bio. Interests, languages, schedule, what they do and don’t do.
  • The room rules, usually in the bio or posted by a moderator bot.
  • The tip menu, a price list for particular requests.

Beginners most often slip up by asking for something that’s plainly listed, or plainly not allowed. Thirty seconds of reading saves you that.

Saying hello

Keep it simple and friendly:

“Hi Anna, nice to be here. How’s your evening going?”

Use their name if it’s on screen. If they don’t answer straight away, don’t worry. In a busy room they might be replying to dozens of people. Wait, and don’t post the same message again.

Do

  • Be polite and patient. Performers notice who’s kind.
  • Take part in the conversation, don’t just make requests.
  • Tip when something makes you smile, even a small amount. See what’s normal when tipping.
  • Take no for an answer. Limits are personal, and they’re not up for discussion.
  • Do what the moderators say. They’re trusted regulars helping the performer run the room.
  • Come back. Performers remember their regulars and the conversations get better over time.

Don’t

  • Ask for personal information. Real name, city, phone number, social media: all off limits.
  • Make demands in the public chat, especially if you’re not tipping.
  • Haggle. Tip menu prices and private rates are fixed.
  • Comment on how a performer looks or compare them to someone else.
  • Spam the chat with the same message over and over, or with capitals.
  • Ask to meet in person. It’s against the rules and will usually get you banned.
  • Record or share shows. It breaks the performer’s rights and the site’s terms.

Private messages

Many sites let you send a performer a private message. Keep it short and friendly, and don’t expect an instant answer. Some performers only read messages from fan club members or people who’ve tipped. Others charge a few tokens a message. That’s all normal.

Private shows

Ask politely in the public chat whether they’re free for a private, and check the rate and the minimum length. Once you’re in, the same manners apply. Our guide to private shows goes through what to expect.

Becoming a regular

Every room is built around its regulars, and you don’t have to spend much to be one. Turn up fairly consistently, at the times your favorite performer is usually on. Remember what they tell you and ask about it next time. Tip when it counts: a goal, a birthday, a really good conversation. If you’re there a lot, think about their fan club (see fan clubs explained). And follow them on the site so you get a notification when they go live.

Some limits for yourself

These connections can feel very warm, and that’s part of why people like them. Still, the performer is at work. Stay inside the budget you set, keep the chat on the platform, and be wary of anybody who asks for money anywhere else. See our romance scam warning signs and the spending limit guide.